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Rule #2 Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.

As I mentioned in the first rule, creating a journal of these rules and the steps you’re taking to apply them to your life will help keep you focused and on track. I created a specific small journal for this rule. If you’re crafty, creating your own journal is a fun way to be creative with a task that can sometimes be intimidating and overwhelming, as taking responsibility so often is. I’ve posted a short video of the journal – you can watch it here.

Meet my guest…

Tamara Merrill – author, artist, super crafter and my mom, joined me to discuss Rule #2 – Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.

As a self-made person, it was good to have her here for this rule. She has truly been responsible for taking care of herself in every way.

I know you’ll enjoy our chat.

Watch it below or download the podcast and listen on your favorite device – download.

Rule 2 Treat yourself like someone
Tiffany Spaulding and Tamara Merrill discuss rule 2 – treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.

Applying the rule

Throughout the discussion, we tried to focus on ways that you could or should treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping. While Jordan Peterson works in this chapter to establish and explain the difference between chaos and order, he also clarifies the important role and need for each. As you work through treating yourself like someone you are responsible for helping you’ll encounter both. We created a short list of 6 areas in our lives where this rule is appropriate and a few ideas for how to apply the rule. If you’re working along in your own notebook you can download the worksheet here.

The List:

  • Physical Health
  • Financial Health
  • Career Health
  • Relationship Health
  • Emotional/Mental Health
  • Spiritual Health

In order to focus on and improve or change your health in any one of these areas, you first must evaluate where you are and where you believe you need to go.

Create a list or journal of each of these categories. Add categories that might be important to you.

For each category take stock of where you are. Write it down.

For each category decide where you want to be or the general direction in which you believe you should go. Write it down.

Important to note

You want to be honest, as honest as you can be, but don’t let the reality of your situation scare you away from moving forward. You only need to do one tiny thing each day to end up with a big result a month or a year down the road.

Use your journal as a daily check-in with yourself. Each morning review your goals, each evening make a note of what you did during the day that moved your closer to your goals. Remember it doesn’t have to be a huge thing, it just needs to be something.

Add the Rule #2 Worksheet to your notebook – download it here.

Quotes from this chapter or podcast.

“Orient to the future, operate in the present.” JBP

“It is not virtuous to be victimized by a bully, even if that bully is oneself.” JBP

“If you’re not a slave to your own dream, you’re a slave to someone else’s dream.” unknown

“Debt is the free man’s slavery.” Dave Ramsey.

“Actually, it IS the destination, not the journey that is important. Without goals, without the destination firmly planted in your brain, you’ll wander rather than achieve.” TAS

Nietzsche – “He whose life has a “why” – can bear almost any how.”

JBP “It is far better to render beings in your care competent than it is to protect them.” You are a being in your care.

“Keep the promises you’ve made to yourself so you can trust and motivate yourself.” JBP

“Do you want to make your children safe or strong?” JBP

Thanks so much for joining us for Rule #2 – Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.

Tiffany & Tamara

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